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Preaching the 'gospel of Inclusion'

By DEE DUDERSTADTOf the News-Register
The Rev. Kent Harrop likens an open church to the great banquet table that Jesus describes in the gospel of Luke.
Longtime pastor at First Baptist, he believes his church exemplifies this table by inviting all to partake, regardless of sexual orientation.
"At the great banquet table of the Scripture, all of the broken, forgotten people are welcome," the 51 year-old minister said. "I have tried to create that great banquet table. We all try to be at the table."
Harrop took the helm 12 years ago. He followed the Rev. Bernie Turner, a pioneer of openness who laid the perfect foundation for Harrop to build on.
"Bernie Turner had created that sense of openness, and I really appreciate it," he said. "It is a commitment that I have tried to continue. It was one of the things that attracted me to the church."
As a parent, he saw this openness as a distinct advantage for his two young daughters, now 13 and 16. A far cry from his own upbringing.
"I grew up in a very homophobic culture," he said.
"It has been wonderful for their development to grow up in a church that was not homophobic," he said of his children. "It's a really healthy environment, a model of God's inclusive love."
Harrop points to longtime partners Don Hutchinson and Lee Swantek as the perfect example of committed gay partners. Openly gay members of the church, they celebrated 47 years together before Swantek's death in 2002.
"They were as loving as any couple I have ever met," Harrop said. "When Lee died, we treated and honored Don as his partner.
"He was not closeted in his grief. How sad that our society does not value and honor that love."
Unlike Turner, Harrop has worked from the inside out, leading by example. As he has grown in his own personal understanding of Christ's example of love and acceptance he has come to "see beyond the labels, seeing gay folk like everyone else."
The church has not limited its role to providing a spiritually uplifting environment, though. It has also reached out in other ways.
The foundation of its outreach to the gay and lesbian community is Together Works, a support group Turner founded more than two decades ago - an era when it was a much more radical undertaking than it might appear today. And Harrop has continued to embrace the group during his tenure.
He said First Baptist remains one of the few churches in the area that is inclusive. It is the only known church in Yamhill County with a ministry to the gay and lesbian community that does not teach change or redirect their sexuality.
Though some members split from the church when Turner began the overture, those who remained, and those who have followed, have been consistently supportive.
"The congregation as a whole values an environment that is inclusive," Harrop said. "We value and respect differences.
"An open church is a safe place for those of us who have gay family members. It fosters a culture of openness."
Harrop said it's all about "getting to know people beyond the labels, seeing gay folk like everyone else."
He said. "They don't have to hide who they are to be accepted as part of our congregation. We value and respect them."
Thanks to Turner, he said, the church not only set a powerful precedent in the community. It become a leader nationally in the American Baptist Convention.
And Harrop has pushed hard to carry Turner's vision on during his stewardship.
"I am drawn to the gospel of inclusion and hospitality," he said. "The inclusiveness is biblically based.
"We try to live it and invite all. In my opinion, Jesus would have us welcome and include them."
He likes to quote Matthew 25:40, where Jesus says: "I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me."
Harrop said he came to his understanding of the gospel over an extended period of time. It was not a sudden revelation.
"My evolution has been a gradual one."
He recalled shutting down once when a friend tried to come out to him. He refused to accept what he was hearing, telling his friend it simply wasn't possible, he didn't believe it.
"The church I served in Ohio for seven years had a 'don't ask, don't tell policy,'" he said, and he accepted it at the time.
"I was a product of the culture I grew up in," he said. "I continue to evolve."
He said parishioners there would confide to him about gay family members, but would not share that with fellow members of the congregation for fear of being ostracized. Here, he said, "We have moved beyond this policy to the point where gays and lesbians are welcome and their families can be open about it."
Harrop said the issue of sexuality continues to haunt America's religious landscape, and it's a shame in his view.
"It's very divisive, in some regions more than others," he said. "It's a sad commentary. It's a value, a value that defines.
"These churches are losing out in having some of the most fabulous members they could have in their church. They are impoverished."
Even in his own church, "There are some who do not agree from a biblical perspective," he said. "We're still evolving."
But he said, "We try to bring everybody to the table. No one should be excluded from Christ."

Screw love, seriously.

I'm really beginning to wonder if it is all really worth it. It seems like every man just turns out to be an jerk.

I see my friends go from smart, confident women to simpering, enabling idiots. One goes back to different guys no matter how many times they lie to her, cheat on her all because she doesn't want to be alone. I see these men treat her like crap. Every single one she meets. I see another stuck with a man for life because he's comfortable for her. She doesn't have to take risks as long as she is with him.

Why be in love if it turns you weak? Why be in love if you start to compromise yourself? Why be in love if the other person always turns out not to be who you thought they were. Why do it?

I really am at the point where I am fed up with it all. I can't seem to pick a nice stable guy so you know what. I'm not going to do it anymore. I refuse. I will not let myself turn into my friends so I'm going to not do what they do. I'm on a love strike!

Alright so thats not true. Its true for tonight but I bet by tomorrow I will be all silly and girly again. I strongly believe in my ability to love unconditionally and forever. I just don't know if I believe that a man will love me forever. I do want to find my person, I just don't (can't) go through all the heartache again. I really do think I've had enough in my life. I'm finally over my ex, why should I do it all over again? It just doesn't seem worth it anymore.

The perfect man

Anybody seen Practical Magic? Theres a scene where a little girl casts a love spell. She wishes for all kinds of crazy characteristics that make up her perfect man. Such as one blue eye and one green eye, favorite color is a star. She says that will protect her from ever falling in love because he doesn't exist. Here's my wish list.

My perfect man......
* Has a great sense of humor. I like it when a guy can make me laugh but also gets my jokes and thinks I'm funny. I love to make people laugh and if I can't make him laugh that means that he doesn't get my sense of humor. I hate having to explain my joke. Its awkward and suddenly not at all funny. Ya'll know what I'm talking about.
* Is good with children and wants a large family.
* Doesn't have a lot of girls who are super close friends. I get jealous easily so this will bypass that.
* Loves to travel and wants to go everywhere. This one is huge. If you don't want to travel than I can't be with you.
* After the inital puppy love wears off still prefers my company over everyone elses.
* Makes plans and follows through.
* Doesn't do drugs. He can occasionally get drunk but I don't want a guy who gets drunk all the time.
* Likes cleaning but isn't obsessive about it.
* Good with his hands. I'm talking about making things....perverts
* Secure in his career

It's like I am drawn to them.

I can't get away from it.

The woman whose stories I am drawn to on Everything has a son who is in the military.
A man in came into my Chemistry class and I knew he was military. He is.
A woman in the same class was active air force. Her husband is still in.
Another has a boyfriend in the military.
It seems that everyone I meet has either been in the military, is in it, or has someone close to them in it.
I'll never escape it.

Religious superiority

Sucks. It just sucks.

Protestors

There were abortion protestors in town today. They were waving those disgusting pictures of bloody baby parts. Next to the public library and swimming pool! Now they can protest all they want but they went too far with those pictures. They were disgusting and horrible. What if kids see them? Those are so inappropriate for children to see. If I had kids I would be incredibly pissed off. They have the right to free speech but kids have the right to not be shown graphic images. Its like showing a small child a rated R movie. There are laws against that!

Stupid crazy ass people.

memories

I was going crazy one day. I lost my sweatshirt. It got colder around here and I wanted my cozy, broken in, i wear it all the time sweatshirt. I ransacked my room and was seriously about to freak out. I should probably tell you guys how I acquired it. I got it from an ex....The Ex. I found it today and did a really wierd thing. I held it up to my face and smelled it. Know what I found....it smells like me.

Isn't it wierd how you react to things? It hasn't been worn by him for almost a year. I don't know what I expected it to smell like. Its over. Everything we had is over. I can move on. I probably should give it away but its too comfortable :-P Just another reminder that my life goes on.

Ace!

My sister is a volleyball star!!!

Ok not really....I just think she is. At her game tonight the coach put her in whenever they were down and needed some key serves. She delivered and then some. She got all her digs and passes. I was so proud :D

I love going to her games. I yell and scream. I never liked sports when I was in high school. I think I enjoy it so much because my little sister is playing :D

Ack! School starts in less than a week! I still have to get my books. Hell.
I'm taking chemistry, 2 labs, and a life span development psych. class. I'm excited to get back at school. I hope this time I can be successful. Cross your fingers for me.

4 days off in a row makes you crazy!

I'm torn. I want to go back to work so I have something to do but the laziness of the last 3 days has also made me not want to move. I've been eating fast food, watching tv, wasting time on the computer and reading for the previous 3 days. I'm now officially a lump. I can't wait until school starts so I have something to do all the time. Between working, class and homework I will be busy enough not to have time to sit around. Then I'll wish I had time.

I could be doing 1) cleaning my room 2) going to the store 3) cleaning the kitchen 4) calling people.

Thats another thing. I haven't been in the mood to call people in a very long time. I get bored with talking on the phone after awhile and just don't do it. Its almost as if talking is too much of a hassle for me. I'm so anti social. I feel bad because alot of my friends probably think I don't care about them anymore. So not the fact. I just feel like being distant. I talk to people online on yahoo and message boards alot. I should write people e-mails....but I don't. I hope they know I still care.

Alright I'm getting off my butt and going to the store. I'll come back and write some more when I get really bored.

Signing off :)